Now that I’m an adult, long gone are the days of childhood family vacations and summer camp. Moreover, I dare say the times of penpals seem to have passed. Nowadays, we are more likely to trade emails, send texts, or follow each other on social media to stay in touch. However, finding a friend with similar hobbies and interests can be the connectivity we all need during this time of social distancing.
When I hear the word “penpal,” my mind immediately runs back to one summer in New England, where I swam the days away in the lake with my new friend, Heidi…or was it Holly? It was so long ago that I don’t quite remember her name or how long we corresponded, but what I do recall is making a connection with another only child who also needed a friend.
Of course, with self-quarantine and shelter-in-place restrictions, the likelihood of having a chance encounter with someone is implausible – and dangerous. Let alone the fact that they might want to send you snail mail now and again. For those looking for a penpal, communicating via the world wide web proves to be helpful in finding someone who gets your stamp of approval.
If you are wondering about safety, anyone can refuse communication from those that seem a bit unpalatable, and there are precautions in place for younger users to restrict adult interactions. Penpal services are also explicit with directives about not using their platform for sales or as a dating service. Think about how in-person relationships work. Friends share interests and talk about their lives, and it’s best to consider a penpal in the same light.
So, before you end up going postal by being cooped up at home, here are a few reasons to fill that PO Box with something other than bills for change.
Find a penpal with similar interests
Sites like PenPal World, Global Penfriends, and International Pen Friends allow users to create a profile and select options for their writing buddy, such as age, gender, and country of choice. From there, users can narrow down preferences to find a friend with similar interests.
Another way to connect with others around the globe is through a penpal Facebook group, such as Worldwide Snail Mail Pen Pals or Penpals From All Over the World. Members post photos of themselves and state their interests and a few facts about themselves, allowing other users to choose to connect…or not.
Discover a new part of the world
Moreover, besides making connections, learning about a new part of the world is intriguing. Curious about Romania? There’s a penpal for that! Connection sites allow you to request a pen friend from a specific region. If you utilize a Facebook group, be sure to specify a country in your request.
Practice a foreign language
Need to brush up on your German or are in the process of perfecting Spanish? Sites like InterPals and My Language Exchange are designed to connect those who want to learn each other’s language. Consequently, it’s a fabulous way to communicate with a native language speaker, gaining insight into the nuances of the language.
Encourage others
Isolation isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. After a few days of binge-watching, reading, and working from home, things tend to feel mundane. For those who are away from friends and family, a remote circumstance is their life, and handwritten letters can serve as a source of encouragement.
Soldiers’ Angels connects civilians with US service people, Write a Prisoner allows inmates to communicate with non-incarcerated individuals, and Reach Out America features its Adopt a Senior penpal program so that lonely senior citizens can receive communication. Therefore, no matter the type of pen friend you desire, focusing on others can help us through these challenging times.
